Mad Mensa Math Skills

A comment on the last post sort of insinuates that I went into the IEP meeting and bullied the therapists and teacher with my superior math skills.

Well, yeah, but that was not the point. I am remiss in that I did not offer the proper introduction in the blog post, the “why” for you to put it in perspective  I greatly appreciate all the comments on this blog, even the ones that take me to task, light heartedly or not.


This IEP was/is extremely important. This is the last IEP before Pearlsky leaves the school district and goes into the “care” of the state. These will be the reports that anyone sees when they want to know more about Pearlsky, when determining what services she needs, who she is. Especially the “psychological evaluation.”

My goal is to get these reports as accurate as possible. It has been shown over the years that the teachers and therapists will always report things skewed towards the better or hopeful. Sometimes outrageously so, sometimes it is very subtle.

At the end of the meeting I did say this (yes these words, and yes I sometimes sprinkle in other languages when others are native) …

I am not trying to be a dick here. We all love Pearlsky and want the best, and I honestly know that, but let’s face it, she is severely disabled and totally retarded. She has less communication than a gerbil. You think I like saying this stuff? Out loud? This is extremely painful, and partially because we all know her, her נשמה, her душа, her soul, all the things that do not matter to the state but influence us.

When I was getting guardianship, the clerk in a very busy courthouse was giving me a hard time saying I had to wait until she was 18 to file. I said in a very loud voice “She’s a retard. Got it? Your words, not mine. SHE IS A REEETARD.” The place went silent, and he said “I’ll get Rick.” [ed. note: see here]. So my point to all of you is that when dealing with others who don’t know her, we have to hit them over the head with hard and cold facts. Let’s face it, Pearlsky has no communication to speak of, needs total and complete care. Period. And to have numbers like “she gets it right 68% of the time” when in fact it may very well be zero, or be 100, is just plain wrong and in the long run will be detrimental to her.

So I felt that I must show them that using the numbers as they were is both wrong and misleading. And in the end, they fully agreed and the numbers will be gone. The state will (and needs to) see that Pearlsky is no more capable than a cinder block. And that is ok, because from the point of view of physical care, it is accurate. From the point of view of communication with daily caregivers who come and go, it is accurate. I did say that we don’t want to make her look worse than she is, but alas, there is not much in that direction anyway.

But she is so much more. Her personality runs deep. She is loved and the effect she has on people is tremendous.

Damn it hurts writing this sometimes.

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