Here is an article from the AP, reproduced in total.
Mom of autistic daughter accused in murder-suicide try blogged her despair
BEULAH, Mich. — Kelli Stapleton, the Michigan woman accused of trying to kill herself and her severely autistic daughter, blogged that day about how desperate she was feeling.
“I have to admit that I’m suffering from a severe case of battle fatigue,” Kelli Stapleton wrote Tuesday on her blog, The Status Woe, where she chronicled the challenges of raising her 14-year-old daughter, Isabelle, who sometimes had violent outbursts.
Stapleton, 45, and Isabelle were found unconscious from carbon monoxide poisoning that day in a van in which charcoal was burned with the windows all closed. Isabelle remained in critical condition Friday at a Grand Rapids hospital, her father, Matt Stapleton, said in an email to news outlets.
Kelli Stapleton appeared in court Thursday, where she was ordered to remain in jail without bail on an attempted murder charge. Her attorney, Anthony Cicchelli, declined to comment.
The family is well-known in their small community of Elberta, which is near Lake Michigan about 150 miles northwest of Grand Rapids. Matt Stapleton is the principal and football coach at nearby Frankfort High School, and local news outlets have reported about him and his wife’s challenges in raising Issy, as Isabelle is called.
“It’s really early in the investigation. … It’s safe to call it shocking and tragic, definitely,” prosecutor Sara Swanson said Friday. “Everyone is focused on hoping the child does well and pulls out of this. That’s where the focus is now.”
It was Matt Stapleton who reported he was worried about his wife and daughter after getting a phone message from Kelli and finding their van was gone from their home, authorities said.
On her blog, Kelli Stapleton wrote that Issy had completed an intense program for severely autistic children near Kalamazoo but that her education plan had been abruptly changed by school officials.
“I am devastated. My husband is gutted,” she wrote.
Some parents of autistic children expressed empathy in interviews with the Traverse City Record-Eagle.
“I don’t judge her, and it was absolutely not the way to handle it,” said Sherry Ginn Richards of Interlochen.
“But when you get to that point, you can’t think rationally. My heart goes out to them because I’ve been there, and I know what it felt like,” she said.
Go ahead, tell me how many things you can find wrong in here. Not “wrong” as in factually, just plain old “that’s so wrong” or who was wrong … or what went wrong.
Now tell me who was right.
I can understand the furstration that can lead to this place. I have a son that is multiplie handicapped. The road is sometimes long and hard to look at. But we all walk the trail we are given sometime better sometimes with difficulty. I only hope she gets the help to move forward.
In answer nto the question: On one was right or wrong. It was a response to a bad situtaion.
All I’ll say about this situation, is that it’s a fucking tragedy but that I completely and utterly understand it. To keep that woman in jail without bond is grotesque and anyone who judges her that harshly, from the get-go is grotesque as well. How’s that for judgement?
I just read her latest blog post and I am so heartbroken for her. One of the biggest wrongs, and there are many, is that she’s in jail. If anyone needs to be cared for and loved, to be treated for PTSD or whatever acronyms apply, it is she. I’m also pissed. Very pissed off at a system that jerks people around like they did her and her husband. I’m going to be thinking about this for a long time. What can we as a group do to help at this point?
Sympathy for how the mom felt and feels? Yes, I do have some, but to attemot to murder anybody is plain out wrong. To ignore what was done to the daughter because she is disabled and because of the pain she is causing her parents, is wrong, IMO. I feel a lot of despair and hurt and other emotions. Can’t help it. But the actions I take, I have to control, or I do deserve to be locked up. It’s a fundamental rule of our society not to harm,to self and others, and this mother violated it, making her a danger. That’s the line not to cross. That her daughter was so much trouble, that society at large is making it difficult to raise her is not a valid reason to exterminate her life. The girl has as much right to life as anyone who has no disabiities. Those parents who cannot deal with their children because their needs are too much for them, need to give them up to the state. Murdering them is not acceptable, excusable.