[motion of] No Confidence issue
Email just sent to the new “High School Special Education Coordinator.”
Subject: [motion of] No Confidence issue
I really need you to understand that my daughter is not only severely disabled, she has absolutely no communication. I am not able to do what every parent does every day, that is to ask her “how was your day at school?” I cannot ask her how she got the major bruises on her arm (she came home bruised from illegal restraints in your school and it took three days to find out), she cannot report if she received all her medications, if she was fed, etc. I put her on the bus in the morning with full trust, confidence and total fear, knowing she is in the hands of some para-professionals and teachers who may or may not have her best interest. It is all trust. It is all confidence.
Last week your secretary called me and told me that she was scheduling the meeting I requested. I never requested a meeting. She told me that you told her to do this since, again, I requested it. That was simply not true, you and I never spoke nor met nor did I even know who you were. I never requested – of anyone – a meeting. The entire premise was false. I asked her who would be at the meeting and she said you, me and the occupational therapist.
You called the next day and assured me that you had spoken to the occupational therapist “at the end of the day yesterday” and you told me that Pearlsky “never had two consecutive OT sessions in one day.” Actually, she did, about 4 hours before you spoke to the OT. That was a direct … falsehood and I showed you the OT’s signed note proving such.
I specifically asked you who would be at the meeting. I actually asked you twice, and both times you said “me, you and the OT.” As a matter of fact, the second time I asked, you asked me “why?” I told you that I did not like surprises, that in order to prepare for a meeting I needed to know the agenda and who was attending. As for your answer of “me, you and the OT,” you yet again misled me, and never corrected this information at anytime before the meeting.
Your secretary says you told her I wanted this meeting. False.
Your secretary told me the meeting would be me, you, and the OT. False.
You told me Pearlsky never had back-to-back therapy sessions. False.
You twice said the meeting would be me, you, and the OT. False. False.
I assume you knew at some point before 11 AM today that you would not be at the meeting and S. would be. You chose not to inform me. And this was the meeting that you called, not me.
I need to have confidence and trust in the people who are in charge of my daughter seven hours of the day.
I have absolutely no confidence nor trust in you or your abilities.
That scares the daylights out of me.
Very sorry to hear about it…yet again…is this a recent use of restraints? That alone would set me over the edge.
‘If people are good only because they fear punishment, and hope for reward, then we are a sorry lot indeed.’ Albert Einstein
Reading your blog often makes me think about this quote. Time and time again you put your trust into people when it comes to your daughter and time and time again you are let down. Obviously dealing with a non communicative young woman they have no punishment to fear and no hope for reward. We are indeed a sorry lot.
From reading your blog, you are exactly what a dad should be. It is sad that some of the better humans and parents never have the oppurtunity to raise a children to independent adulthood and see reflected in their children what a great job they have done. On the flipside, thank god (although not literally) that Pearlsky got you as her dad.
My heart is breaking for you and your girl…..even though my mind knows these things happen all to often. Give them HELL SD maybe you should restrain them!
When will they learn to never, ever, EVER mess with Single Dad? You would think that by this point they would have gotten the message.
🙁 I’m so sad to read this. I wish there was something I could do to change things. Just know I’m thinking of you two.
Again? Just unacceptable.
I agree with Julie – they need to remember to stay on their toes with you because that is what you do every day for Pearlsky!
She is lucky to have you!
Yuck! It’s not for a progress report or something? I just got the form for Hannah’s school that requests me to list some times that work for me to come in and meet with her teachers. I can request the OT, PT, and Speech therapists if I have something to discuss regarding them, otherwise it’s just her teachers and myself. If her therapists need to discuss an issue with me, they can attend as well. Anyway, you are brave sending your girlie to school full time. I haven’t reached that goal. She goes three days a week from 1:00 to 3:00. I still drive her! That would change for me if I had to go back to work and that scares the daylights out of me. Hang in there and Pearlsky is so blessed to have you advocating for her at all times.