Some weekends are made to be forgotten, even if it takes major drugs or drinking … Throw in the Friday and the Monday, and well, there may or may not be a god, but there is a hell.
To see the pièce de résistance, watch this clip from the movie.
You know how Friday was awful. An email of the worst kind, customers who work hard to be idiots, lunch with the past, then welts. WELTS! Yes, welts on Pearlsky’s arms. More on that shortly.
Saturday. Just bizarre and not fun. Thinking about stuff too much, emails, welts, etc. I went to a close friend’s graduation, and, well, it did not go well from a family point of view. Sometimes the six year old comes out in all of us, I guess.
Then there was Sunday. No one in town, all of our friends gone at the same time. So, what is there to do? Think about emails and welts. And then, go for a walk. Yes, Pearlsky and I hit the town. We run into a neighbor, a school nurse if you will (but not Pearlsky’s). What is the first thing she says?
What’s with that welt?
And I get, well, not grilled, but questioned. Have I told you of my love for school nurses?
Monday morning comes along. Still no response from the teacher nor aide. We have a scheduled doctor appointment … we go. My back did not appreciate the two person lift to and from the exam table, I am using ice and lots of Advil today.
I’ll give you five guesses as to what the doctor asked …
What’s with the welts?
So, here is my email to the teacher, and her response.
The barriers that Pearlsky’s putting her hands in her mouth are nothing compared to the problems that these welts have already caused me. What you need to understand is that in the past I have been accused of neglect of Pearlsky, and needed to respond, and also of abuse of Pearlsky, to which I needed to respond. As a matter of fact, the former was to mandated reporters in the school district. As an outcome of several instances of bizarre and misguided accusations, Pearlsky is seen regularly by several physicians and, as luck would have it, today’s doctor’s appointment was an outgrowth of that.
I was quizzed by a mandated reporter this weekend who happened to see the welts and by one of Pearlsky’s physician’s today. I was spoken to for about ten minutes about restraints (and the elbow things you use are medically considered restraints), I was told how they can only be used by a doctor’s orders, and how they should not be used.
This is not just a matter of a kid coming home with a bruise, this is Pearlsky coming home with welts on both arms and my needing to account to the hospital as to why. That is why I emailed on Friday needing an explanation.
Both her mother and I have asked for an explanation in writing, that is not a light request. I need to account for her injury. This is not something that can be taken lightly, because neither the school district nor the hospital has taken things lightly.
To which I receive:
Throughout the past few years of school we have been using elbow braces with Pearlsky in order to deter her from putting her hands in her mouth. When wearing the elbow braces she continues to have full range of motion; she is still able to put her hands in her mouth, but there is slight tension, making a little bit difficult. This has been very successful, and has allowed her to access her environment without being as distracted by sucking or chewing on her hands. This has not been considered a restraint since she has the full range of motion and use of her hands. A restraint is “any device that limits or restricts freedom of movement”. Pearlsky’s movement is neither limited nor restricted when wearing the braces.
The welts on Pearlsky’s arms were a result of putting the braces on backwards by accident. When the braces were on backwards, her arm rubbed against it the wrong way. This was discovered by a teacher in the classroom after removing them. I want to reiterate, that this was the first time that this has happened, and it was a pure mistake.
If you feel that we should stop using the braces we will stop. I would love to find a way for Pearlsky to get the sensory feedback to her hands and/or mouth without chewing on her hands. Please let me know if you or any of her doctors have any suggestions.
So, call me Ray Milland. But pick your movie …
I would much rather feel like Roosevelt “Rosey” Grier, seen in that movie with Ray Milland. He is an American actor, singer, Christian minister, former professional American football player, Kennedy bodyguard who nailed Sirhan Sirhan to the ground, author of Rosey Grier’s Needlepoint for Men (yes, a real book on needlepoint), and an all around good guy.
But noooooo, I get to be Ray Milland.
Someone pass the bottle please …