Jeopardy [ˈdʒɛpədɪ]: the danger that an accused person is subjected to when on trial for a criminal offense
Jeopardy! : an American television game show featuring a quiz competition in which contestants are presented with general knowledge clues in the form of answers, and must phrase their responses in question form.
Alex, I’ll take freaking nightmares for 100:
The answer to your question is one I do not expect you to understand. I will tell you, I will explain a bit, but don’t ever expect to understand.
When a woman is traumatized, there is little that can be done after any physical intervention other than therapy and mental health support. I know this for many reasons, not the least of which is that one of my closest friends is an accomplished professional in this field. Therapy, talking, explaining, working it out, understanding it, etc.
You cannot give Pearlsky therapy. She has no form of communication, none. Nada. How do you counsel someone when you do not know her level of comprehension, and have no feedback? Do you just talk and potentially make her relive the incident repeatedly? No. There is nothing to do.
Now, let’s consider nothing happened and I did bring her in. That in its own right would be traumatic. It is invasive, foreign and scary. It is traumatic for someone who can deal with it, let alone someone who cannot. And, if nothing happened, you have just traumatized her.
Now let’s consider something did happen and I did bring her in. It would be invasive, foreign and scary AGAIN. It is traumatic for someone who can deal with it, let alone someone who cannot. And if something did happen, you have just traumatized her a second time.
For reasons I will not share, I don’t think it would have produced any additional information other than that indeed something had happened. Even if it did, that would be moot because, frankly, at this point, I don’t give a shit about “the greater good.”
No, I don’t give a shit about the greater good. I care about Pearlsky. I care about whatever mental health she has. I care about further trauma. Everything else is your problem, not mine, not hers. That is why.
Still waiting for the phone call or knock on the door to know where we stand.
I wish you and Pearlsky the best.
I have a barely verbal son with autism and Tourette’s syndrome starting mainstream kindergarten in less than a
week….. what you and your daughter are going through is part of the thousand screaming nightmares that every parent of a severely disabled child tries not to think about. I have to believe there are good people that want to help my son. I have to believe that there is justice for somebody that would hurt your daughter, at whatever end they may come to.
(((((((((((BIG HUGS FOR YOU BOTH)))))))))))))
I am speechless. If I can help in anyway way I’m here…….
I’ve been a reader for quite a while, but don’t usually comment. Your situation has been on my mind far more often than I’d expect, considering we don’t know each other. I’m saddened by the fact that I can’t help you or Pearlsky in any way. Stay strong, Single Dad.
Please let me know if there is anything I can do for you. I’m praying for you and Pearlsky and as always, I support you.
Thank you all for your support. We are coming to the end of this particular nightmare … but your words are wonderful and appreciated.
I found your blog a few months ago and have spent a while reading through it all. I spent 3 years being the primary carer for my terminally ill mother and found that both physically and mentally exhausting at times, so am just so encouraged and amazed by your fortitude and determination, as well as your love for your children.
I just can’t imagine how you’re feeling at the moment – I feel sickened and angry for you and Pearlsky – taking advantage of someone so vulnerable is truly abominable.
Sending hugs and support to you and Pearlsky.
I’m so sorry.