Wrong, I say, it is wrong
It is absolutely wrong for a single mother to take care of a son. Wrong, I say, wrong-aruni. Disgusting. Let’s say you have a disabled twelve year old boy … and he lives alone with his mother. My word, isn’t that an abhorrent thought? She changes his clothes! She bathes him! Good lord, she sees him naked.
Just as bad … a woman caring for her elderly father. No, wait, a man helping to care for his elderly, senile mom. Helping her get in or out of the shower. The horror of these thoughts.
I am my daughter’s primary, if not sole, caretaker. I am the only one who dresses her in the mornings and gets her ready for bed at night. I bathe her. I wipe her butt when I change her diaper. I hold her when she is seizing. I laugh and cry with her. She is my life.
Yet, there are more pukes than you can imagine who denigrate me, show disdain. Family, doctors, nurses, strangers … all because I am a man and I care for my teenage daugther. MY daughter.
I’d say “fuck ’em” … but I can’t. Some are mandated reporters.
A social worker, mandated reporter, and a lawyer walk into a bar …
Goddamn assholes and their gender roles.
Totally sexist. Sounds like you’re doing a great job. I’m enjoying your blog. Is it wrong to enjoy someone else’s misfortune? Well, I enjoy your writing at least, and your story is interesting. How’s that?
God forbid you be a parent before you are a man.
fuck the assholes. you are an awesome dad. your little girl, she got the short straw. but she did get lucky in one thing. shes got an awesome dad.
So my question to all of those people is this:
Are we going to require male nurses to only work with male patients, and female nurses to work with only female patients? Because, technically, when anyone is incapacitated to the point where they need someone to bathe them, abuse CAN arise. Are we supposed to live our lives based on the “cans,” “maybes” and “what ifs”? It enrages me that anyone would or could report you for taking care of your darling the way only a loving parent can!
I am a (half-time) stay-at-home mom with 2 kids, ages 1 and 3. My husband works afternoons and I work days. I do not send my children to daycare because I feel that I can provide the best (and most trusted) care for my children. And, because we can afford for me to work parttime, we believe this is the best situation. That’s not a “what if” or “maybe” – that’s me making a choice as to how I want my children to grow. And you should have that right too. How can you expect anyone to care for your darling the way that you can, want to, and DO care for her?
Goodness me, that sort of segration works just fine!
In Saudi Arabia….
With so many parents who just don’t give a damn about caring for their children, it irks me that certain ignorant jackasses try to vilify you simply because of your gender. Something is very, very wrong with this world when a man is punished for being a devoted father and doing what he should to take care of his child.
You know, I’m a woman. I’ve also wiped two boys’ butts today. Why isn’t there a social worker beating down my door?
Rest assured that you’re a great guy and dad. Pearlsky and David may have a lot to deal with, but they really lucked out in the dad department.